The need to feel accepted is hardwired into our brains as human beings. It is a basic human instinct that dates back to the beginning of time, and was a necessity for survival. If we didn’t fit in with the pack, we would be ostracized and become vulnerable to predators and other threats to our existence.
In current times, unless we are in some extraordinary situation, we are not going to die simply because someone is not fond of us. However, our need to fit in and be liked is so strongly tied to our survival instincts that it has not faded out with evolution. Our desire for approval often causes more harm than good, leading to unnecessary stress.
When you’re focused on what everyone else is thinking, you can’t focus your attention on what you think. You can’t keep your focus on your own goals and growing into the person that you want to be. It’s important to keep in mind that most of the time, we overanalyze things in our own minds and people are too worried about their own stuff to be concerned with what you’re doing. It’s not worth it to waste time worrying if other people are judging you, disliking you, laughing at you or whatever it is that you’re concerned about.
There are many reasons why you should stop caring what everyone else thinks and start focusing on yourself. But, learning to brush things off is much easier said than done.
We have some tips for those who find themselves focusing too much on the opinions of others on how to begin creating healthier boundaries with others and concentrate more on themselves. As the saying goes, the best offense is a good defense, so it’s best to begin with building up your own sense of self.
When you’re wrapped up in being concerned with what everyone else thinks, you’re diverting your attention and energy from where it’s needed most. You should be focusing on your own life…what you think…what you want. Begin by building your confidence, and you will notice that little by little, your energy will begin to shift to where it is needed and deserved.